Confidence to Collaborate

by Kevin Scudder January 15, 2013

In a local blog post I recently wrote about what it takes for consumers to have Confidence in Collaboration. 

In this post I focus on the importance for professionals to have the Confidence to Collaborate.  Without our having confidence in our own ability to collaborate, how can we expect our clients to have confidence in us?

Here is a non-exclusive list of the parts that make up a collaborative case:


Initial Conference with Client

Initial Contact with Other Spouse

Introductory Meeting with Other Spouse’s Attorney



First Meeting to Review and Sign Participation Agreement

Information Gathering Meetings

Brainstorming (key elements) Meetings

Parenting Meetings

Child Support Meetings

Spousal Support Meetings

Professional Team Only Communications

Hard Discussions with Team Members

Hard Discussions with Clients

Progress Notes Drafting and Editing

Termination of the Process

Signing of Final Agreements


In which of these tasks do you have a high level of self-confidence?  In which of these areas do you have less self-confidence?  What steps do you take on those areas in which you have less confidence, and in those areas in which you have a high level of confidence, is it possible to be over-confident such that the possibility of making a mistake is higher?  How do we increase our skills in each of these areas and act with the nimbleness required in every collaborative case?

And why ask these questions at all.

We must ask these questions because for our clients to have Confidence in Collaboration, we must have the Confidence to Collaborate.  By asking these questions we model an intention to ever improve in the work that we do, making it possible, and probable, for our clients to have confidence in the services we provide.

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